How to boost your sexual confidence

It's all about the attitude

If we told you that sexual confidence is not directly related to good looks, you wouldn't believe us. But that's exactly how it is. Regardless of your looks, if you have a positive attitude and come across as someone who is confident in his or her own flesh, you're going to attract the men / women to you in droves.


Change your self-perception

Only by changing the way you look at and think of yourself, can you bring others to perceive you differently. In other words, make yourself love 'You' and then see the difference that makes. The easiest and best way to do that is by telling yourself positive things throughout the day. 'I am beautiful / handsome', 'I am sexy', 'I do have what it takes', 'I have a lot to offer any man / woman' - all these are extremely empowering messages and will enhance your sexual confidence considerably.

Increase your sexual knowledge

Just knowing that you can give your partner mind blowing sexual pleasure goes a long way towards boosting your sexual confidence. So, if you don't know all the tricks of the trade, get some help, and learn all you can about sex. You need to know everything right from how to make eye contact, how to kiss, how to increase anticipation and desire, to the ultimate goal - how to pleasure your partner.

Get fit

Yes, we did say that sexual confidence isn't all about physical looks, but it never hurts to stack the deck in your favour! So, take care of your appearance, not just to become more sexually appealing, but also to feel much better about yourself. Hit the gym and lose any extra flab, dress better, and make the effort to look the best you can. Do all this and watch your sexual confidence soar sky high.

Indulge in self-pleasure

It is important to understand what sexual activities you like and what you don't. Knowing that you can guide your partner into making you feel great increases your sexual confidence tremendously. To identify what really pleases you, you may have to explore your own body; in other words - masturbate. And no, it's not bad or a sin, but can actually be the key to enhancing your confidence.

Try hypnosis

Special psychological techniques such as hypnosis have proved to be very helpful in improving a person's overall confidence, including sexual confidence. Do ensure that you consult a qualified hypnotist for this and don't try to get your friends to hypnotize you!

Learn to handle criticism

If people criticize you about your abilities or your appearance, or if you even catch yourself doing the same, then try to get rid of these negative thoughts and criticisms immediately. You may not be able to shut someone else up, but you can handle such negativity by concentrating on your positive thoughts as mentioned earlier. With time, you'll become so confident that criticism will slide over you like water off a fish's back!

Treat a lady like one

This is for all you men out there. Remember your manners and more importantly, use them. If you treat a woman like she's the only one for you, you'll notice that your charm with the ladies works every time.

Pay attention to how you smell

This may sound like a weird way to improve sexual confidence, but smelling good is very important if you want to attract others. That Axe Effect advertisement isn't all exaggeration after all!

Don't just name it, but claim it

Many people say that they want to be sexually confident but don't want to actually do what it takes to get there. Your thoughts only aren't going to make you more sexually attractive, your actions will. So don't just stop at reading this article, but do try out everything that's mentioned here!